We all face numerous problems on a daily basis, not necessarily at work but at all possible fronts such as family or neighborhood or child’s school settings, etc. Irrespective of the type of problem or the situation, we always get subjected to dilemmas with respect to what decisions to take.
Dilemmas are mostly challenging as they demand you to juggle with conflicting Moral, Emotional, Practical standpoints that tend to dictate the consequence of the decisions you make.
Worst case scenario in handling these daily problems is to run away from them, like an ostrich putting the head in sand and assuming that the danger has been averted. But that’s the worst case, one that should be consciously avoided as it could make the problem situation worse. Ignoring a problem for a longer time period could make the problem more adverse, as by the passage of time more people or strings gets attached to what was once a small problem, and suddenly one fine day it will glare at you like an incredible hulk from a close range.
Best case scenario is to Think Outside the Box, and bring about a win-win solution. What I mean by win-win is that all parties affected by the problem emerge better off post you implement the decision.
How to Think Outside the Box? Firstly you should know where is the box if you want to think outside of it!
Whenever we face challenging situations that demand our decision making, we unconsciously tend to put a framework on the familiar parameters related to the situation.
This framework could be in the form of Why me? Why now? Why him/her? Why this?
We then tend to build the “box” with one of the above four forms and linger within the self-erected confinement in search of a way out. Isn’t that quite an irony? Build a wall around and look to escape out!
Then what is the apt methodology to follow, so as to resist the natural behavior and get more creative in problem solving?
It’s just that if we become aware of our unconscious thought process, we suddenly attain a vantage point where we start seeing the box clearly, which makes it easier to think outside the box to fetch a win-win solution. Being aware of your emotions towards the situation would give you a great clue to figure out the dimensions of the box.
Let me explain my point with an engrossing story.
It was a chilly dark night and he was speeding in his two-seater car through the empty roads to hug the comfort of home after what was supposedly a stuffed day. There were very few souls emerging in every road junctions and fewer vehicles with glaring red tail lamps, indicating the city coming to halt after yet another deep winter day.
As he was passing through one of the prominent bus stops, he suddenly notices three people wrenching the cold air & waiting for the last bus to pick them up to their abode. At a closer glance he notices a few more nuances of the three, one happens to be his cardiac surgeon who miraculously saved his hopelessly sick mother; other one was a beautiful young lady in business attire, the perfect match that he was dreaming as a life partner; a ripe old lady who is visibly sick and appear to collapse anytime on the concrete shelter of the bus stop for being over exposed to the cold headwinds.
He stops the car few feet after the spot and suddenly feels pained with the harsh dilemma – whom should he invite into his 2-seater car?
It’s the perfect opportunity to payback the Surgeon for gifting his Mom her second chance to live; If not an immediate shelter in close confines, the old lady is sure to die of Pneumonia; God sent opportunity to offer a ride to the young lady and get to build an equation with his dream life partner.
Weighed down by crisscrossing options in hand, he takes a deep breath and closes his eyes to let himself aware of the state of his mind and of the tough choice that he has to make. He wants to help all the three who are stranded in the bus stop, the life rescuer, the struggling old lady and the once in a lifetime opportunity of being with the perfect person he was dreaming of.
Suddenly clarity emerges from within, he pulls back his car to the exact spot, gets out of the car to make an eye contact with his Doc. He cuts the car’s engine, takes out the key and hands it down to the doc & says he can take the old lady with him in the car and escape the unforgiving weather.
He stays back with the girl now, waiting for the last bus to come, and making up a strong connection that can lead to a future relationship.
There’s always an out-of-the-box solution to all problems we face and all it takes is being aware of our mental & emotional state just to fully muster the power to THINK OUTSIDE THE BOX (TOTB).
What’s your TOTB moment in life? Go ahead and share it in the comments “Box” ;).