You have a toddler! It means you have a hyper enthusiastic & ever-excited being at home! In the following years that marks her transition from a Toddler to a Teen (t 2 T), you put in years of sacrifices, sweat, toil and hardship to enable this transition.
In a nutshell you put in your best “Focus” and “Attention” on her, for her to shine as a bright youngster. This is the case with almost all parents in Middle & Upper SEC classes.
But sadly, only a minuscule % of these youngsters turn out to be utilizing their 100% potential, when they eventually hit the tar! That is, when they start living on their own from early 20s. And they stay such, hopelessly under-utilized-potential-bearers, for the rest of their adulthood.
Are you going to be yet another parent whose child is going to be just another average person, not shining in any walk of life, not turning out as a role model of his/next generation, not finding life as a pleasant journey as it is supposed to be?
If above description doesn’t excite you, then stop paying Attention & Focus on your child! And here’s why I say this, as you read through rest of the article.
Research pointers on Childhood Development:
Centuries of research works on Early Childhood Development have one common thing to state, a child’s brain development peaks between 5 to 17 years of age, these formative years pretty much decide the Character & Talent of an Adult.
And once developed, the envelope comprising Character & Talent gets sealed for the rest of the person’s lifetime.
As a Parent if we realize this, is by itself a big leap on the fine art – “Parenting future Super Stars”.
Further, we will individually look into these two aspects, with some great examples to help form a correct perception around them. So Read On.
A Super Star without a right character is actually a Black Hole – aka a dying star, which cannot radiate any light in the long run!
Character can’t be imparted to a child, who lacks any sort of discretion in deciding what is right or wrong, by focusing our attention on teaching. Instead there is a little life hack, if I may use some start-up jargons here, to impart a good character on children.
Children often ape their parents’ actions, especially in their formative years, and hence cleansing our own character to reflect noble actions is all that is needed to impart good childhood character.
Don’t succumb to that temptation of jumping the Amber sign the next time! Trust me, if followed by everyone, the future India will turn out to be traffic-law abiding country! Hence all traffic related menace solved!
Just to reiterate further, sharing a little tale involving the Father of our Nation – Gandhiji.
Gandhiji silently turned down a complaining mother’s urge to advise her child against over eating Sweets. The Mom felt quite annoyed by Gandhiji’s behavior, but exactly a week later, she got called to revisit the ashram again, with the child. Upon arrival, Gandhiji gently locked his eyes with that of the kids’ and said “eating lots of sweets is an unhealthy habit”.
Now the super annoyed Mom asked Gandhiji that if this could’ve been done last week, her repeat visit could have been saved.
The classy reply from The Mahatma – A week earlier, I was disqualified to address anybody about overeating sweets as I myself was having huge cravings for sweets. I took a week’s time to abolish that habit in me, didn’t touch a single piece of sweet and now feel assured of being qualified enough to advise anybody!
Character: There is nothing to pay attention to your Child’s activities – Pay attention to your own actions and correct them gradually, you will notice a welcome pattern in your child too.
Lots been debated on the least understood topic: Talent.
A true Talent, almost all the time, is about discovering what one loves (absolutely passionate) to do and from there it’s a mere free-wheeling to Super Star status! It’s that simple actually!
As parents get preparing children for Big Achievements, we must never inhibit them from initial exploring of a lot of new things (even if that’s against our beliefs/ priorities). An early stage prohibition (read authoritarian parenting) leads to a permanent & irrevocable knot in a Child’s psyche, what has today made most of us resort to assumptions & aversion to take even calculated risks!
The famous cricket commentator Navjot Singh Sidhu had to describe the state of mind of Paul Valthaty, during his very debut IPL match against the mighty CSK, when he went on an unstoppable rampage at the best of the lead bowlers to score a memorable 100: “He is like a Monk in his perfect Meditative State”
This simply means, a mind that is totally void of any fear or second thought.
Where there is no fear in the mind, the child almost naturally discovers her true passion in life by the time she becomes a teen. And if you let her pursue that, even though it is to do with contemporary art as against your ambition of sending her to MIT, then you have essentially created a Super Star!
India needs more Artists, NGO workers, Designers, Musicians, Classical dancers, than IITians. Trust me on this. There is even an obvious correlation between child upbringing based on passion development to Economic, Innovation & Military Might of a country.
Talent: Stop focusing on what your child needs to become in life, let him explore all that he wants to do in his childish enthusiasm, you will see a beautiful flower blossoming very soon.
Happy Parenting!… India needs plenty of Super Parents to Become a Super Power! Are you the one?
Now, What are the parenting tips you practice and would like to pass on to others? Include them in the comments below: