Imagine yourself in any of the below scenarios:
- Facing the Global CEO of your company in an elite awards function, where you are filling him up on the recent accomplishment of your team
- Standing on a stage starring at well-educated audience who have gathered to listen to your demo
- Writing an SOP for an admission process with a prestigious University
Even in any other such similar occasions that could be unique at your personal level, have you ever encountered a serious dilemma at a specific point where you had to choose the next word and the choice is between “I” and “Me”?
It is one of the most common dilemmas that engulfs virtually anyone, despite someone holding a pretty great command over the English language.
In this post, we are going to find a little sweet hack that could completely eradicate this dilemma once for all in your life, and you can sound the same confident way without feeling dreadful of being judged as being stupid.
What exactly causes that dilemma in the first place?
We need to understand a very underlying phenomenon, to understand the source of the dilemma. And then the trick to avoid that dilemma can be taken from the same phenomenon that originally plays out in creating one.
We have a natural tendency to first try & hear what we communicate through choosing different words, and then do choose an appropriate word that we feel convinced of driving the intended point. We do all of this all the time, but only at an unconscious level and at a quick pace that we don’t actually realize it.
However, when it comes to “I” and “Me” choice, somehow these two words play a clever trick on us and leaves us confused as to which one fits the sentence that we are making.
Now comes the part of turning the same trick over. “I” and “Me” confusion usually comes in a context where you had to use two or more objects in your communication. For example,
“Would you explain that again to John and I/Me?”
“Thanks for Inviting Rekha and I/Me for the dinner”
As you can notice, you are being one of the two objects of the above sentences and that’s when you get stuck on how to represent yourself, whether it is I or Me.
The trick to overcome this is by hearing the same sentence (do you remember that I said we use the same unconscious phenomenon to outsmart the trick?) but by using only one object, which is yourself (and omitting the other object).
For example, rephrase the above two sentences by removing John or Rekha completely and only you being the sole object as follows:
“Would you explain that to I?” or “Would you explain that to Me?”
“Thanks for inviting I for the dinner” or “Thanks for inviting Me for the dinner”
Now tell me, which alternative in the above two sentences sounds right to your ear? Yes, these are the ones:
“Would you explain that to Me?”
“Thanks for inviting Me for the dinner”
So its Me and not I, which is a correct way of communicating.
Now for the final touch, how many of you have been to a live music show where the singer sings one of the famous songs of your favorite playback singer? Tell me whether you like it (irrespective of the singer being classy) as much as the original piece that your ear recognizes as from your hearing the playback singer singing? That’s what it is!
You and ME, share the same trait 🙂
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