Protecting the piece of mind
In an article that I was reading recently I came across a fancy acronym – PYNW. It stands for Plan Your Next Week.
I am 2 weeks into this crusade against Monday Blues and still wondering whether the thought of going to office is putting any smile on my face – now that I am clear about demarcating the comfort and discomfort zones. I then seem to connect the dots between what PYNW says and comfort/discomfort zone i am thinking about.
If you are wondering what these comfort/discomfort zones are, then it means you are yet to catch up and for that you got to read my previous two articles:
In this article, I am going to discuss several experience that unfolded at work place and how my conviction driven march to defeat Monday Blues panned out eventually. So time for some storytelling!
I come to realize that I still don’t have a clear formula but just some arbitrary notions. Knowing the demarcation of comfort vs discomfort is fine but it still doesn’t enable me to instill a constantly elusive Peace Of Mind at work.
What destroys peace at work? With this basic question looming large, I am off to work and within few hours of entering the office I get the answer instantly – I am constantly racing to prove myself to everyone from colleagues, peers and boss.
I also notice a fact that the more I try appeasing people around me, the more grind I put myself through and the net effect is peace of mind squarely out of the window.
This marks the birth of new formula – Why should I be mindful of who’s is watching or gauging me? Can I just work for my own success?
Suddenly as sense of wow feeling struck me, that I don’t care who’s watching me and I am doing what I am doing for achieving my own success.
I am filled with an optimistic view of overcoming Monday blues but somewhere I am also feeling that this new found formula by itself can’t be a complete solution. It still lacks clarity and I say this precisely because the next couple of events still impacted me adversely despite my being agnostic to external factors watching me over.
In one such instance, I was trying to tell my boss that there’s a pressing medical condition at home and how badly I need to be next to my ailing wife, and then only to face his cruel indifference to my situation as he was continues to talk about office matters.
It is very frustrating when your boss subtly communicates to you that “I don’t care what you are going through as long as you are aware of what priorities awaits you at work”. I was wondering how else should I make him acknowledge a bona fide situation involving family medical issue.
As the frustration grows into anger at one point, I suddenly stopped responding to the ongoing Whatsapp conversations.
I just realized what an amazing technique I have just stumbled upon, the peace is back into the room once again! How can you silently say NO to people? And would that very act offload unnecessary pressure from your shoulders?
Ah! At every encounter of new type of peace wrecking situation, I am coming up with more ways to calm myself on one end (Silent No) and focus better on another end (no one is watching and I am working for my own success).
I am making a steady progress, even though my hunch constantly tells me I am yet to crack that One Ultimate Formula To Beat Monday Blues.
And my hunch never falters. The unfolding of few upcoming episodes at work place sort of agrees to my skepticism.
As we were getting ready to participate in an industry expo where my company has bought a booth, I was making all necessary arrangements for manning the booth for 1st hour of the event’s start, while I could accompany my wife for a physiotherapy session.
And on the event day all hell breaks loose, the two people whom I had appointed for manning the booth invent silly reasons to reach very late! This backfires big time as the event organisers directly call my boss to update him the embarrassing scene of an lone empty booth. The event was already buzzing with potential customers.
This lead to a furious exchange of messages where I am being squarely blamed for the whole embarrassment he had to face, when my personal situation is well known to everyone involved. It also is just the 2nd week of my working in that organisation and I still had to listen to all the reprimand related to how I am not a suitable Leadership material!
I begin to wonder how the world judges your talent with such one-off and inevitable family compulsions? I also wonder that end of day, isn’t it our duty to outline the capabilities that the world would then measure us (or appreciate us)?
Intangible importance – The new formula thus invented. How to dictate respect by making others to shift from fixed mindsets of using quantifiable things like hours worked, reporting time, etc.,; and to truly notice the limitless value we bring to the table.
Aren’t we supposed to create such a intrinsic platform for ourselves, so that we gain full control on how we are judged right?
I have been into several discoveries of late, all having to do with various bitter experiences I encounter and the resultant conceptions I devise, all to secure the peace of mind at work.
No one is watching
Saying a Silent No
Creating Intangible importance
The next few days I was working on becoming better each day, by merely following the above four points mindfully at all situations.
This resulted in me working hard to create several new initiatives charting an actionable plan.
I looked up for competitors’ case study and made an engagement plan that we will follow with our Key Accounts. I also wanted to address the low employee morale by making them to perform self-goal-setting, which could bring back the energy and motivation in them.
In addition to this, I built a rewards system for incentivising key accounts to bring more business and thereby get more referrals happening.
I was so charged up to present these ideas at the upcoming weekly review meetings, where I could share my plans with all. I made a lot of prep work by deep diving into past sales data and deriving supporting patterns for my ideas.
The weekly review started and soon I was in for a rude shock. Just after 10 minutes into presenting my points (Btw I was the only one talking other than the founder who took most of the 4 hour meeting for his lengthy gyans) my flow was stopped and the ideas that I came up were crushed for vague reasons.
I was feeling so stupid and insulted that I wanted to quit immediately. I couldn’t see a point in working for another day in a place where I could clearly see the existing fate of vintage sales patrons and the same degeneration would happen to me too down the road.
Also the founder’s proprietorship mentality of functioning, there’s no scope for ideas or initiatives. You have to look stupid and take the blame for even legacy issues or you end up getting sidelined.
I had to take some action now, highlight the constraints I am being dealt with (such as no proper hand holding being done, having to manage a thankless function, etc.,) and communicate strongly my position to the founding members.
It’s a clear validation of nothing but inheriting the ruins (and the defeat) of a deserted army, as individual discussions I had with the members of other verticals revealed that they don’t have a clue of why my vertical was lambasted during the review (i.e., there isn’t any real problem in the first place or if there is, then there is also a solution already in place!)
Again, as mentioned earlier I had to take up strongly with founders and that lead to quick succession of legacy issue getting fixed such as a formal hand holding, making a business plan from scratch etc.,
As I make my way through the rubble, the next few days turn out to be a complete surprise package!
Wait, why all this negativity? So says my inner voice. There’s something terrific that I am feeling all of a sudden within myself.
On a particular day while driving to work, I simply notice that the traffic is paving way for me!
I was pressing full throttle on the car and zooming past a seemingly obedient traffic. I was listening to a peppy song and feeling exuberant at the thought of reaching office.
I am wondering what is happening to me. I haven’t felt like this before and there’s an air of excitement all around me.
Is this because I am starting to realise about how people who are selfish are also the ones who are successful (or peaceful) in life?
Different thoughts race past my mind, there are hyper selfish people in my own life, who are bothered all the time only on their priorities & needs and they always lead a happy and contented life.
There are again these famous people, who are extremely selfish about their wants & also take extraordinary measures to fulfill them and they lead an extraordinary life.
So there are two kinds of people; happy people and happy & successful people! Yes, Got it. I got to know what i want and I got to be extremely selfish about that. That’s going to be the only way I lead a peaceful & successful life; how can there be any Monday Blues in such a life.
In order to be selfish and telling the external world to go to hell; I need to first know what do i want
I then spend the whole night wondering what are those supreme wants of mine.
Then I came up with the list:
- I wanted to make changes to my personal life & habits by creating an active professional indulgence
- I wanted to be busy pursuing challenging problems
- Learn some new things each day. And by that get 1% better than yesterday, esp with regards to my interests of building a business for growth and scale
- Write one masterpiece – Monday blues
This is all that I am going to do now.. How to be (point 3) better each day, the only way to do that is learn something new from someone and imbibe that into my life. And get better at what I am doing.